the moon and the stars, which you have set in place,
what is man that you are mindful of him,
and the son of man that you care for him?
Yet you have made him a little
lower than the heavenly beings,
and crowned him with glory and honor
Psalm 8:3-5
the moon and the stars, which you have set in place,
what is man that you are mindful of him,
and the son of man that you care for him?
Yet you have made him a little
lower than the heavenly beings,
and crowned him with glory and honor
Psalm 8:3-5
Qs * ds ~ Q * S
These little yellow socks are a remembrance from a scary and surprise event that our 2 year old son, Matthew, and our family walked through together while traveling around town. We were driving along and noticed Matthew was lethargic and when Corinne looked in his eyes, she noticed they were bloodshot. We happened to be on the other side of town when we discovered this, and it was the weekend, before the time of urgent care centers. But a doctor friend from our church lived in the area and we decided to drop in just to get him checked out. She looked him over and told us to take him to the emergency room. It turned out that he had a severe bacterial infection and needed an IV. So this toddler was kept in the hospital for a day or two until they were certain the infection was under control and could discharge him. I remember later the evening we left him at the hospital, gathering the rest of our kids together with Corinne and weeping while praying that Matthew would be healed from this and not harmed by it. God answered our prayers, he was soon back home with us, and we rejoiced, but I held onto the little yellow socks that he wore while in the hospital as a remembrance of God's faithfulness to Matthew.
Fast forward almost 30 years and we are at a worship service at Renewal Presbyterian Church in Philadelphia with Matthew, and the pastor is preaching from Exodus 17:8-16. In this passage the Amalekites launch a surprise attack on the Israelites near Rephidim. Moses instructs Joshua to launch a counterattack the next day. As Joshua and the Israelites engage the enemy, Moses stands on a hill with Aaron and Hur on either side of him. When Moses' hands are raised the Israelites prevailed and when Moses' hands drop from wearyness, the Amalekites prevailed. So, Aaron and Hur have Moses sit on a rock and they keep Moses' hands held high until the Amalekites are defeated at sunset. At the conclusion of the event, the Lord tells Moses "Record this event on a scroll as something to be remembered and make sure that Joshua hears it because I will completely erase the memory of the Amalekites from under heaven." Then Moses builds an altar and called it The Lord Is My Banner. He said "For hands were lifted up to the throne of the Lord..."
There are many connections here. It is good to remember the times when God's banner was over us, where we needed to raise our hands towards the heavens and seek His help, where we needed the help of other believers and people of faith to walk or stand with us. And it's good to build altars by keeping remembrances of events where God showed up and we experienced The Lord is My Banner in a deep and rich way. Because of distance we don't often worship together, but recalling this family event while we worshipped together, while being instructed to remember the times when God has showed up in our lives was a very special gift.
(I welcome guest blogger, a dear friend and brother in the faith, Mike Mazzochetti who shares the following blog post.)
Yes, my Mom took care of me from my youth, sorted out my relationships and situations as needed, dealt with my behaviors, and offered guidance until I was on my own as a young adult.
Once when I was in my mid-20s my Mom said to me, the oldest of 3 siblings, that she was sad that she was not a mother any longer. I assured her that I needed a Mom as any 26-year old could have. Once a Mom, always a Mom!
I carried on in career development, and then marriage with 3 sons of our own. The years went by as my Mom was in and out at different times in the normal course of events. Along that journey my Dad died when I was 38. She was a young widow herself as she struggled with loneliness and finding her way. I did not offer her any special attention as she enjoyed family with her 7 grandchildren and found a way to cope with a certain set of friends. Eventually, she dated a widower whom she knew from her youth, so we were delighted she was with someone we could trust until his death a few years ago.
We grew up in a household that was the center of activity. Friends and family members were a continual source of visiting. Food and drink were always plentiful as we had fun with my parents' fiends and their children. My Mom and Dad never really had to go out, so you knew where to find them. But over time, she, being the youngest of her friends, saw them die one-by-one to just a handful remaining.
In the last few years as her arthritis advanced, sustained a broken hip, and experienced mounting internal ailments, she quietly withstood this onset of age with strength and little complaint, unless you ask her! As the executor of her will, I have had to help her with financial decisions. I laugh now, but it has been so frustrating to deal with a multitude of fragmented accounts as a separate "envelope system" for her expenditures - one for house repairs, another for grocery and monthly expenses, a third so she can cash checks with a known teller, yet another where she had a credit card, and so on. She lives on her own and has a helper whom she has known for years, attending to her 3 days a week, doing the laundry, and grocery shopping. I visit her 2 or 3 days a week to pay some bills and take care of some household tasks amid the conversation.
Why do I tell you these things?
What is most beneficial is that I call her each day, even when I am to visit. This gives me a chance to assess how she is doing and what she needs - some days she feels better than others. This phone conversation is focused as we give undivided attention in just a few minutes to anticipate the actions for the day.
I pause at this because I find in my heart the reason to care. I realize we are in relationship and not just a needs provider. When I am there, I hear her thoughts and sense her emotions as I note her problem solving skills. Is this easy? No, as I can be testy or stand-offish with her idiosyncrasies! She has hearing deficiencies as I need to repeat myself, not always being patient. When she has a restless night, she sadly is incoherent in speech or cannot count money properly. When she struggles with the remote for the TV or navigating her smart phone, I do my best to teach her watching her steps - again hopefully with patience! I applaud her when she cooks a meal, or bakes cookies, or mops a portion of the floor - things she likes to do that make her feel productive - but learning that she needs her rest to take on the next day.
When she was young and I was a child, she took care of my needs - but I know now she was in relationship with me. She is the "other woman" in my life. We have each other in relationship of giving and receiving, caring and sharing - building on vulnerability. I love you, Mom! I know you say the same to my brother, sister, and me.
We first vacationed with Don and Sharon in Cape Cod in 1978 and we recently visited them in Doral, FL in March 2020 just before the pandemic hit. In between, Don and I took many road trips to NY Yankee baseball games. Each game was its own special adventure because Don planned our outings with such thoughtfulness. June 1992 was the first of these adventures, and included his son Rich, my son Tim, pastor Mike and his sons. We ventured to Camden Yards in Baltimore, during its inaugural season, to watch a Sunday night ESPN game followed by a Monday night game against the Orioles. We Yankee fans were well entertained that evening: 4 Yankee home runs; controversy with Baltimore's manager and umpires as to whether the Yankees starting pitcher was doctoring the ball; and receiving single serving size boxes of Wheaties as we left the stadium. The Yankees, who were a sub 0.500 team at that point in the season, undoubtedly had eaten their Wheaties for breakfast that day. Don arranged for us to stay with friends that night and created a plan for the following day that included a visit to Ft. McHenry and the Babe Ruth Museum. We got to the stadium early for the Monday night game to watch batting practice. Don was somehow able to find a way for us to meet the Yankees manager at the time, Buck Showalter, and for the boys to get his autograph. Although the Yankees lost the Monday game, we had a wonderful trip and time together.
There were many other Yankee road trips we enjoyed together including:
Because of my competitive nature, sports too often became an unhealthy obsession for me. Through Don's example I learned to appreciate baseball as a gift from God for all the positive things it teaches about life: discipline, focus, excellence, failure, and redemption. I don't know when and with whom I'll be attending my next NY Yankees baseball game, but I know I will be remembering and giving thanks to God for my friend Don.
Our family travels and vacations have come with planned and unexpected encounters, but were always an adventure. On this trip, we encountered a person with celebrity status who, though broken, blessed our family.
I was attending the International Bridge Conference, held each year during the month of June in Pittsburgh, which was a big deal for me. I was the principal author of a paper describing the bridge scour evaluation program that Bergmann and two other consultants ran for the New York State Thruway Authority. We made this event into a family mini-vacation, that included an evening baseball game at the old, Three Rivers Stadium on June 11,1991. It was to be a night of disappointments and blessings. At that time Tim was 9, and baseball was the love of his life. We were all pumped to attend the game between the visiting Los Angeles Dodgers and the Pittsburgh Pirates.
Unfortunately, we left Three Rivers Stadium early that night, wet and disappointed. After a 2.5 hour rain delay the game was cancelled. As we trudged through the parking lot, all I could think about was whether I would be able to get back the $50 I'd spent on game tickets. I also hoped that we could get back to the Gateway Hilton Hotel, where we and the Dodgers were staying, in time for Tim to get autographs from some of the Dodgers. Realizing this possibility, he was easily able to forget about the rainout. We arrived ahead of the Dodgers, and there were already about a half dozen boys waiting around the front lobby near the main doors. The hotel management were not pleased to see these children loitering in their four star hotel and said that when the players arrived, we'd have to go outside to attempt to get autographs.
In 1991, both the Dodgers and Pirates were contenders, and the Dodgers had several big names including Orel Hershiser, Eric Karros, and Darryl Strawberry. In November of 1990, Darryl Strawberry, who had been a New York Met, signed with the Dodgers as a free agent. He was kind of a big deal. Darryl Strawberry was voted to the NL All Star team that year, and later in his career signed with the New York Yankees and was a member of their 1996, 1998 and 1999 World Series Championship teams.
We waited a little longer, then saw several limos arrive with the bulk of the players. What happened next was fast paced. Tim and Corinne went outdoors, but the players passed them by. Darryl Strawberry, a lean 6' 6" tall, towered over everyone. He stopped in front of three boys in the lobby and quietly signed their cards and papers. Tim, who was rarely quiet or patient, raced back inside and positioned himself next to Darryl who autographed his paper too. Tim was filled with awe. I wondered if Darryl Strawberry knew how happy he made those boys. Leading up to that game he had been slumping, and was hampered by injuries. I didn't know too much about Darryl Strawberry at the time, except that he had recently come to faith in Jesus. That night I saw him as a person who was willing to take the time, when nobody from the media was watching, to bring a group of boys some joy by showing an interest in them.
Darryl Strawberry's baseball and personal life has been filled with both success and brokenness. You can read about it here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Darryl_Strawberry . He suffered under an abusive father, was suspended three times by Major League Baseball for substance abuse, suffered two bouts of cancer, and several times was in trouble with the law. Yet, one can see through the brokenness that Darryl Strawberry is a person loved, saved and restored by Jesus, who taught us "Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I came not to call the righteous, but sinners." (Mark 2:17).